Here is a transcript of Janet's free-range, unscripted video
"Hi, I’m Janet and I’m really excited to be sharing with you some of my major myth-busters when it comes to self-care. As a personal development coach and mentor, I work with self-care a lot and I ask people “how are you going with self-care?” the biggest thing I hear back is “I’m not doing very well with this. I need to do more or I should be doing more, it’s a really weak area”
So that’s the first thing I hear and this is our first myth… That I should be doing more with self-care, I need to be doing more. I’m going to come back to that one later.
The second thing I ask people is “what does self-care mean for you?” A lot of people share they want to go to spa days, they want to get their nails done or get a massage, or it’s about going away with friends for the weekend. I ask people about how it makes them feel and it makes them feel relaxed. People want to feel relaxed with self-care, and calmer they want to feel good and this is myth number 2 – not that there is anything wrong with feeling good but I’m gonna explain it as we go. That self-care, - that if I don’t feel good, I’m not doing self-care and that’s our second myth we’re going to explore today.
I want to expand our definition of what self-care is. We have our big things like getting a massage, awesome thing to do, going away with friends – great again and they really have their place but what about going for a walk, just around the block, getting into nature, what about just walking barefoot on the grass, watching the clouds go by. It doesn’t have to be anything big. It could be something really small. It could be, I don’t know, having a sleep-in in the morning. It could be getting up early in the morning. It’s going to be different for everyone. So that’s one expansion and I want to expand us again into a notion of self-care maybe not being very comfortable, maybe not feeling great and the things I have in mind here are;
Pausing before we speak
Having a difficult conversation
It might be saying no to someone
It might be saying yes to someone or something, something to do.
It might be, you know, could be all sorts of things
Some of these things can feel quite uncomfortable but we know that they’re self-nourishing we know deep down, these are really supportive of our well-being but they don’t always feel comfortable. This takes us back to myth number 2 that self-care has got to feel great! Sometimes it just doesn’t and we know deep down having that difficult conversation, saying no is really self-nurturing.
So what about our myth number 1, “I should be doing more”. Well, I challenge you to go back through your day and have a really good look at the things you do, the little things that are comfortable, maybe not the big self-care things that we think about and I really challenge you to have a look at that because I’ll bet and I’m sure that you’re doing a lot better at self-care than you think!
So that’s all from me. It’s been great speaking to you and hopefully, I’ll see you again."
